Your Life is not Personal

Did I get the title well? You mean am not living my life? Hey brother this is my life, Keep Off! Your Life? Consider reading more to discover why you should never say this.
Last week a friend offended me when she commented on my facebook profile picture with words like an insult pushing me to think more about myself. I hated the fact that she had decided to tarnish my name by publish negative comments about me on my wall. Thank God, twenty seconds after her comment I logged in and deleted it, but it did not come out of my mind. I sought God for peace and grace to love her despite the act. Though it was not easy I somehow found peace. The next day she sent me a message explaining how sorry she felt after posting the comment and I forgave her but kept on talking to God about it.
But the lord answered me in my bitterness saying “Your life is a shared resource to be used by many and not just you” This person has said this so that through her you may learn to forgive and through your life she may learn to say “sorry”. She could never have learned to say sorry without invading your life with painful careless words.
The word of the lord here came as a surprise since I expected him to tell me how much it was important to forgive her. Thoughts rolled in my mind and I got a clear picture of the life I am living and the life I will be living in days to come. I discovered that my life is a public space where people will come in to be used by me as they make use of me. Though some come to make use of us, many people will never allow themselves to be used by others without complaining. I feel that we complain simply because we think that they are demanding too much from us and we are gaining nothing from them. But consider looking at the whole thing in a different dimension and you will realize that there is always something to be used in them.
While you give yourself to be used, you affect more and more lives positively, hence becoming more productive in the kingdom. For this is what God is looking for: A fruitful person. Anyone who does not allow his space to be invaded is not productive. You can not learn how to forgive until you allow an offender in your space. You can never learn how to say sorry unless you get in to someone’s space with an offence. This is what we constantly do when people come in to our space: We look for a way to keep them off forever, saying that we are closing all possible opportunities for the devil. This is not the devil but people making use of you.
Now unless we learn to mutually use one another in the way of each party being positively involved in the usage then we will not grow while being fruitful. If one has to bear fruits then both parties have to agree on usage. For this reason Paul the apostle said “…That we may be mutually encouraged by one another”. The issue here is that it is not a personal thing but a thing for all the saints whom God has purposed to be in your circle.
Now how many people have come around to make use of your circle? How many have you allowed in? You may be missing a lot by hindering them from using your life to grow. I am not talking about physical usage am talking about spiritual effect which is triggered by spiritual objects like words. Again am not talking about misusing, it simply using, which means that its limited to the natural and freely occurring thing like feeling sorry for a bad thing done to you.
Think about it more and see what opportunities are presented by the bad things people do to us. Never tell them “ Excuse me this is my Life” It is a shared resource to be used by others just as you use people’s.